How you do one thing is how you do everything.

email Oct 17, 2020

I am good at sabotaging my happiness and pushing away the things I love the most.

I prevent myself from accessing deeper levels of intimacy with a romantic partner. I’ll make up a story about him in my mind, I’ll blame him for being emotionally unavailable which justifies my next action which is to eliminate him from my life.

Now that he’s gone, I don’t need to go deeper.

Problem solved!

Rather than embrace and share these parts of myself, I eliminate the person who points them out or wants to see them. In the program where I earned my PhD in Transformation, I named this part of me, “murderer”.

“How you do one thing is how you do everything.”

Especially in terms of business, it starts with realizing we don’t live in a perfect world.

First drafts are supposed to suck.

It takes persistence and a willingness to show up even when the numbers are small. 

For example, we're running Goddess Church events on a monthly basis. The intention for these moon ceremonies is to build community. I typically email a prompt to participants before the ceremony. At the end of the ceremony, we agree to accomplish a task in our own lives. In this example, it was ‘spaces’. We committed to clear a space / declutter a space (closet, desk, drawer, car, etc).

We agreed it would support one another, from an accountability perspective, to share our before/after photos of the space we cleared. Where would we share the photos? We tried Facebook Groups in the past, and it didn’t seem to fit for us. We wanted to try something new.

We took a step back to look at our previous events. We noticed that we encounter this challenge in almost every event. Where do the prompts go? How do people interact with the prompts? How do we maintain engagement before/after events? This is an ongoing unsolved problem.

This told us that we wouldn’t only benefit from having a place for the photos to get published for this particular event. We also need a space for prompts to be shared before and after all of our events. We need a space where we could maintain an organized catalogue of previous events, prompts, and shares. We need a space for the community to plug-in and out anytime they want.

We decided to test a concept we’re calling, Goddess Community. We quickly built out a new section of the Goddess Process website with private user access and a feed for Goddesses to post, comment, share, etc.

Our vision for this online space is to eventually be built out with great depth, a lot of content, and Goddesses supporting Goddesses on a daily basis.

This manifestation process feels vulnerable. It’s a risk. It makes me feel scared. “What if it all fails and is a big waste of time? What will they think of me?"

Fuck it. Let's do it anyway.

In order to walk towards that vision, we started using this new online space for the event that was right in front of us. We invited participants from church to post their before/after photos.

We identified a need, we created a potential solution, and we tested it with the people who inspired the idea. Before I knew it, we had built a space from scratch that now had people from the moon ceremony posting their before/after photos. It was beautiful to witness the process unfold.

In the past, I would have killed off this initiative immediately. My previous Self would tell me, "If it doesn't have a million followers it's not important. Eliminate it!"

Today, I am taking a different approach. One that is more free from the obstacles I tend to place in between myself and the things I desire the most.

It takes several weeks to months to build highly useful, valuable resources that are rich with experiences, knowledge, and insights.

Then again, isn't that the same for all things worth having, being, and doing?

Sending you love,

Amber J